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Originally Posted by Bill3
You could try visualizing if you have not already done this.
Visualize yourself when there are families with young children all around you. How do you feel? How do you feel about him?
Visualize yourself in thirty or forty years: no adult children around, no grandchildren, no fond memories of caring for kids. How do you feel? How do you feel about him?
Visualize yourself traveling, which you love, but never seeing the sights through the eyes of a child, always alone with him. How do you feel? How do you feel about him?
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Thank you for your reply. This has been very helpful.
The odd part is that I more so want kids for when they are adults rather than actual children- that lifelong bond, watching them grow into their own people, having a relationship as adults, spending holidays together. But it is not guaranteed that they will want that with me, or even live near me.
As far as babies and raising children I have not been around kids very much and honestly don't know how to care for them. But at the same time I know I have the ability to love them unconditionally and care for them no matter what. I know I will make a good mom but I am not sure if that lifestyle will make me happy.
Maybe my reason for having kids is selfish. I hope they bring me happiness and fulfillment and honestly to feel less alone when I am older. I want to provide that unconditional love, to teach, and help them grow. Are those good enough reasons?