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Originally Posted by carcrashonrepeat
I like my life without children. Plus Ive spent most of my twenties consumed by symptoms of mental illness. It's only been about 7 months since I realized something was terribly wrong with me and I needed help. I feel like a newborn baby myself lol so having a child anytime soon would just feel wrong.
If my partner wanted to have children, then I personally don't know if it would work out. I wouldn't want them to feel like they're missing out on something they really want. I'd like to think we could be friends. I'd be supportive of their choice and I'd want them to feel the same for me. I just enjoy my freedom and I am developing this new relationship I have with myself. I'd like to share that with someone eventually, but I don't want to share it with children.
With all this being said, if you really want to be a mother and you're prepared to make space and time and have the resources to be a mom, you should totally do it. And you should do it with someone who wants the same thing and sees you as a partner in that unified goal.
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As you said you feel like a newborn baby now and having kids would not work anytime soon. I see so many people having kids before they have really worked on themselves, or even know themselves. I am trying hard to work on myself as I often find myself depressed, negative, and am constantly comparing myself to others. Plus I am completely uncertain of my career and trying to work out a new direction to go into. I can't see myself having kids before I have at least worked on some of this (at the very least my career and developing healthier habits). My fear is that I may never feel fully content with myself to have kids so why throw away something good for something that might happen?
My boyfriend worries he preventing me from doing something that will make me happy and it will ultimately cause friction in our relationship. He is starting to think it won't work out but I am trying to convince myself otherwise.