At the peak of my sexual adventures I had to know names and I had to find something in others that made me genuinely like them. Even if I’d only known them for 10 minutes.

I would sometimes, with regular partners, find myself becoming emotionally attached and it was, in all but one case, mutual. For awhile emotional attachment does mean better sex. For me, though, the spark didn’t last long and I would be on my way. There were some holdouts, people that I genuinely loved, but I am cautious, now, about the vulnerability of love. Sex with love can be great but it doesn’t last. Love, I mean — it’s never lasted for me.

I had some years of believing myself impotent and lacking any libido. I was miserable. I am, once again, without sex partners. Long story. If I can get a handle on my finances, I’ll find a nice escort for satisfaction. I have escort and ex-escort friends, which helps.

Did you have any personal trauma prior to the 3-month period? Or just anything out of the ordinary? Any prior bad sex?

You’re here, on PsychCentral, and I have to think that you’ve at least one disorder? You may be in therapy, or not, but I believe that this is a subject for a shrink.

You’ll get a lot of empathy and support here but I can imagine your frustration and I’m not an MDshrink or even a licensed therapist. Not out of the question for other member, I guess.

You may want to see a doc who specializes in sexuality. She might suggest surrogacy. Nothing to fear there and I would bet that you wouldn’t feel dirty.

Just a thought.

Call a doctor.