Hello Scout; Thanks for sharing your story. (By the way, I went back & read your introductory post as well.) From what you wrote here, it's sounds as though you're pretty comfortable with who you are & how you're living your life for the most part. The one exception seems to be regarding whether or not to "come out" to friends, employers, co-workers, etc. This is, perhaps, something I can comment on.

I'm an old man now. But I've waged a life-long struggle with gender identity dysphoria along with depression, anxiety & some other stuff. When I was young, there was no internet. And issues related to sex & gender simply were not considered fit topics for discussion. And, as a result, I grew up hiding my gender identity issues. Somehow, I don't know how, I realized early on that there were things about myself I must never reveal to anyone. And so I didn't. And I continued hiding literally for decades until I finally came lurching out of the closet temporarily a few years ago. (I'll spare you the details as to how this came about.)

Anyway... when I did finally come crashing out of the closet... I thought for sure the earth would move under my feet! But what in fact happened was simply that no one really wanted to hear about it. And so, after a while, I tiptoed back into the closet & closed the door. I'm still there & I don't expect to ever come out again. The point of this, though, is that you just don't know what "coming out" is going to result in either for better or worse. But once you've come out, you can't take it back.

My instinct would be to say that most anyone you reveal your incontinence interests to is likely to turn & run the other way. But I could be wrong! When I "came out" I expected one thing. But what I got was something entirely different. The problem is though that in my case I now live with the knowledge that a secret I had fully intended to take to my grave is now known. And there's nothing I can do to take it back. It causes me to have a (thankfully) low-grade sort of constant embarrassment that I have no practical way to resolve. It simply is what it is.

So I guess what I would say here is simply think your situation over thoroughly before you make the decision to come out to anyone. Perhaps no one will really even care. But it is also certainly possible coming out may have some real negative consequences in terms of both your social & vocational prospects. And once you've let the cat out of the bag, as the saying goes, it may be tough to get it back in especially in these days of near universal internet access. (I've read some posts, here on PC, written by members who put some things up on the internet, or had things put up by others, that they were both highly embarrassed as well as concerned about but that they had no way of getting rid of.) At least these are my thoughts with regard to your post. I wish you well...