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Originally Posted by LikeABoomerang
I could not be with someone who didn't want kids. It would be a deal breaker for me. They are such a huge, important part of my life. To be honest I cant stand being around other peoples kids for long periods of time, but my own? I can't imagine life without them.
Personally I feel that the topic of kids is such a huge life impacting one that if you can't agree on the subject, then it wouldn't be worth it in the long run. One of you may find later down the road that you regret having to make such a huge sacrifice by choosing one direction in life and not the other. But that's just my personal opinion. It really depends on how much you want to have a child in your life.
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I do want kids but I think I would be happy without them. I also think I would feel a void to some extent. It’s not like I wouldn’t feel a void without him in my life. I imagine dealing with some regret either way- regretting losing a person I love and regretting not being a mother. It feels like I loose no matter what I do.
I have never been someone who always wanted kids or who dreamed of them for years. When I pictured my life I pictured so many other kids other than kids- a career, friends, travel, my current family, adventure, and kids were more of background noise. Now that I’m faced with never having them I’m reaizing I want them but I think it’s important to recognize that I won’t do it unless the circumstances are right and right now they are nowhere near close to being right (financially, stability wise, not just my relationship).