It's probably for the best, TheSadGirl, for my son to move out. Right now the plan is that he moves out when he has a job and is making money. It seems he wants his independence and then i can go back to leading a calmer life except for the occasional emergency phone call, like the one from Guatemala that he broke his teeth in a fight...
Fortunately he stayed up until 5 am and redid all the work and got the project done and posted on github and a webpage he made. I checked the link this morning and it wasn't working so he had to fix that but he actually did do the project despite the calamatous breakdown of having erased by accident a good part of his work. We had a good day today and went out for lunch before he got to his eye doctor appointment. I called my insurance and told them he was visiting and also driving my car with me in it. They took a note and are not charging me for now since it is presumably just a short term visit and not a new living arrangement. His eye pressure results were good so the eye drops he's taking are working. Anyways we are now waiting to hear from this company if they will offer him a position. He's back to playing video games now and not working on any of his software projects but he's proud that he pushed through the stressful time and thanked me for helping him settle down to re-code the project in time.

WC, as always i appreciate your thoughts and concern. I've had a few slips with the MJ but it is only a short term situation. I'll be back on the bandwagon soon.