divine1966 - from the way I see it this isn't really a case where either should have to compromise. This is a fundamental incombatibility. You can't have half a kid, which is why I think this is quite simply one of those relationship dealbreakers.

frustlandlady - egotistical, really? Because he knows what kind of life he wants? Most people I know that don't want children (including mysef) have given the issue a lot of serious thought. No one should have a kid if they don't want to. That is a recipe for disaster. There are enough unwanted children in this world already, unfortunately.

At least he has honestly told her where he stands on the issue so she can make up her mind. With my ex I was always clear that I didn't want children, but he was dishonest to me about where he stood for years.