The television host, Steve Harvey, gives women some of the best advice around. He says that a guy will know inside of 6 months if you're "the one." So, yeah, he loves being with you, or he would have been long gone by now. I think he is committed to staying with you. But I also think he has figured out how to get most everything important his way. Of course, it's all fair because he tells you to just leave, if you don't like the deal. That's what I would call a "bluff." He figures you won't call his bluff. This way he can gloat that he didn't force you into anything.

I have to agree with divine that there's something wrong with this picture where you will give anything to hold onto this man. Suppose he gets sick or in a car crash and leaves this world when you are 48 years old. Then you are without him and it's too late for you to have a family. That's the fate I designed for myself, and I can't tell you how dismal it seems at times.

I would advise a separation. I think there is a good chance he might find his commitment to childlessness is not so deep as you believe.

Lots and lots of times, individuals are not the best judges of where their long term happiness lies. I honestly didn't think my boyfriend would be a good father to a child of mine. He wasn't managing his obligations to the ones he already had. But ask yourself if your guy really lacks what it takes to parent responsibly. He might be just apprehensive. That's kind of normal in men. You may be helping him lay the foundation for his own future unhappiness.