Divine was posting, while I was posting, so I only now see her post. I think she is spot on!! This baby thing is a symptom of a bigger problem.

My conclusion: Get pregnant and let him deal with it. If he leaves you, I think you'll still be happier than you have been.

I think you have gotten tied up with a controlling game-player. Fatherhood might make him a better man.

Some people have to have what they need thrust upon them. Olive, you need to think outside the box. Don't be straight-jacketed by this guy's tight little mousetrap conception of what being true to oneself and sticking to one's principles is all about. His moral compass has a broken needle.