It also seems he threatened breaking up with you before if you choose to live in a different state. It also sounds like you gave up more to be with this man, more than just having kids.

Moving to a different state to live with him (why? You aren’t married),giving up your job, not being allowed to live in the same state as your parents etc and now this. How many more things you need to give up to keep him?

Not wanting children is the least of the problems here. This guy calls all the shots. I am wondering if you are struggling with low self esteem. Do you really believe this man is the only man on this planet you deserve?