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Originally Posted by divine1966
It also seems he threatened breaking up with you before if you choose to live in a different state. It also sounds like you gave up more to be with this man, more than just having kids.
Moving to a different state to live with him (why? You aren’t married),giving up your job, not being allowed to live in the same state as your parents etc and now this. How many more things you need to give up to keep him?
Not wanting children is the least of the problems here. This guy calls all the shots. I am wondering if you are struggling with low self esteem. Do you really believe this man is the only man on this planet you deserve?
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I really don’t appreciate you digging up old posts from a year ago and throwing them in my face when you only know a sliver of my relationship based off of the lowest low we’ve ever had. My mistake for putting it all over the internet. I thought this community was supportive but I feel personally attacked by you, divine1966.
1. Yes, I chose to move to another state for him. The move is meant to last For 3 years while he finishes his doctorate program. I don’t regret my decision and frankly insinuating that it’s wrong because we’re not married is disrespectful. It’s a decision we made together. When he was applying to programs he applied with me next to him and we both agreed which states we wanted to live in. I have friends in this current state. Our current state is one I always wanted to live in and I always wanted to move to another state. I wouldn’t have done it if it wasn’t something I wanted. It just proved to be a difficult decision.
2. Since that last post you dug up he has agreed to move back to my home state. This is something I wanted that he is compromising for me when his family lives elsewhere. Living there is much more of a deal breaker to me than having kids so that’s why I was questioning if he’s the one.