This is a complex issue for me too. I have a primary family with mostly Narcissists.
THe head Narc. has passed away now, but everyone else is still very acting out sick and power over types of people even if they are not full blown. My mom is weak, elderly, almost died a month ago. I'm staying in my family's life until she passes for sure. But I really think its best for me to not to plan much contact after she's gone. Games galore can be terrorizing to me over and over. So I totally identify with so much of what people are sharing on this site.