Many years ago I was with a man who was adamant about not wanting children. I was absolutely sure I wanted children, wanted to be a mom, and wanted a family of my own. After having been together for 3 years, I left the man, moved to a different town, had a great job.

I met another man. We fell in love and moved in together. I got pregnant and was over the moon with happiness. The guy, who was from another country very far away from California, freaked out and left town.

The first man, when he found out I was pregnant, found me and told me he desperately wanted to be back together and wanted to raise the child together. We got back together, got married, and had a daughter. He (who had 'never' wanted children) was in love with our daughter. Absolutely adored her every move. He completely loved her as his own.

Three years later, my husband and I had a son. We were completely delighted. We both found immense joy in raising our two children. We loved them with all our hearts and souls.

Our daughter is 32 now, our son is 29. Both are doing wonderfully well with their adult lives. My husband and I have been married for 30+ years.

Just this year my daughter's biological father got in touch with her. She was initially annoyed, but she went into therapy and is working on how she wants to proceed with her biological father, with whom she had no contact as she was growing up. (She and her dad, my husband, have always been close.)

My point is that I've seen a lot of men who "didn't want children" fall madly in love when they first laid eyes on their newborn baby.