In mentioning these options, I was not implying that you would not be financially stable nor did I imply that you would be unable to take care of yourself. When I refer to planning, I'm specifically addressing the issue you currently have about whether or not your boyfriend will be up for being a father.

Also, I'm saying this from a background where my mother and many of my close friends wanted the same things you do and for one reason or another became single mothers. So my point of view has always been that if you want to be a mother, you can be. You can find a partner who is or is not the bio father who could still make a positive difference in your childrens' lives. And just because I didn't have a father in my life who loved me didn't hinder my life at all. My Dad wanted to be a father but couldn't be. Your children could very well have a father that loves them but you're not romantically involved with.

As I mentioned, if you want to be a mother, you have options. It doesn't have to be fixed on a boyfriend who doesn't seem to share the same purpose right now.