I disagree with the priority part. Bringing another human life in the world to please someone else is the wrong reason to do it and frankly cruel in my opinion. I don’t want my kids to have a father that never wanted them just so I could fulfill my own desire to have them. He can’t help that he doesn’t want kids just like I can’t help that I do. It doesn’t say anything about either of our love for each other.

At the end of the day it’s up to me to decide which I want more. It sounds like you and others believe not having them is something I would regret. I could also see that. I could also see myself regretting loosing him. Honestly I lose either way.