Sadly,AlwaysChanging2,I can relate to what you're going through.I allowed my adult son to move back in about 5 months ago and I have been really triggered so many times since(PTSD).

It's very hard having a child living with me when he is an adult,it just doesn't work and I am trying to push him back out on his own.Again.He currently has no job and no where to go and I can't afford to rent a place for him and pay his bills every month(which I have done in the past).He 'says' he is trying to get on his feet and will move out once he does yet hasn't been applying for jobs.He is just kind of stuck here for now and I feel like I am stuck too.

unfortunately where I live there's a thing called squatters rights and trying to have the police remove him from my home does no good since this is considered his residence.

I love my son but once he does move out I will have to stand firm and say no next time he wants to stay in my home for a few days or a week or two(he always says it will only be that long).I have said never again each time but when it's your kid and they have no where to go it's always so hard to not let them.

Don't beat yourself up over this.I assume it's a difficult thing even for parents that don't have a mental illness.I understand though,I beat myself up every time I lose my temper with my son and rant and rave at him to pick up after himself,do his own dishes,etc.But dang,it sucks for an adult to expect for me to do everything just like when he was little.

He triggers me purposely too and tells me I am just crazy and over-react because I have PTSD.

It looks like both of us need to stand strong and put our own needs and our own mental health first and let them figure things out on their own.It used to be that kids looked forward to moving out and being on their own but now a lot of them expect to get a free ride indefinitely.I don't understand it.

The ironic thing is my son tells me he hates living here when he's mad and threatens to leave.I tell him please do.