I don't know your back posts like some of the people on this forum so I will not judge the man one way or another. I do feel that you shouldn't have to compromise what you want for the relationship and neither does he. He has told you straight out that he doesn't want kids and that's his right to choose. You shouldn't force him to do something he does not want to do and likewise, you shouldn't do something you don't want to do. So you're only option is to change your opinion (by weighing what's more important to you) or leave the relationship. Simple right? Not really.

Me and my wife were/are in the same boat. I went into the relationship kinda wanting kids but I knew I wouldn't have/carry my own child because I did not want to pass my bipolar to anyone. So I left it up to her. When we first got together she was definitely a "no children" kind of person. Now that she's older she goes back and forward about having her own child, but I've left the choice up to her because I'm still unsure about a child (I know not the best way to look at it but it is what it is). She grew up in a bad family environment and was pretty sure she didn't want kids. I married her knowing we may never had any kids and even though I was leaning towards having kids that was something I was willing to compromise with because I felt being with her is more important to me then a child.

We have many times talked about adoption and we're both on the fence about it. Right now though, we both agree that we're having too much fun traveling and going to concerts to have a child at the moment. As we get older both of our views on the subject have changed. She has at least considered adopting and I have at least consider a life without children. When and if the time comes to make the decision we will have to really evaluate the situation and decide what to do from there (we've been together for almost 13 yrs). Right now we're having too much fun together and the baby topic isn't even on the table atm.

I'm not saying stay with the guy just because it has worked out for me and my wife, but it is something you two will have to deal with eventually. I wish I had better advice. But I do know my opinion has changed as I get older and maybe y'alls will to. I don't believe in divorce and I knew going into our marriage there was a possibility of not having children and I was fine with that. If I finally decide settling down and having children is important to me then I will have to choose what's more important to myself, divorce and child or married with no children.

I wish I had better advice for you but I just wanted you to know that you weren't alone in the situation and that I feel for you.