Olive at 22 I made the decision to not have kids. I come from a big family and logged in hundreds if not thousands of hours with all of my nieces and nephews. I spent entire weekends caring for them. In one case I spent 24 hours a day for a week with a sick one year old. I stayed with my sister and her family for the week because it was easier so I was not responsible for my nieces care when they got home. They were up with her in the middle of the night and so was I. I knew after that experience motherhood was not for me. My fiance knew of my stance on this and he was okay with it. Also said if I changed my mind he was okay with it too. Since I was the one who was carrying the baby he left it up to me. Never changed my mind. I am always happy to now spend time with my great nieces and nephews and hand them back to their parents!

If it is truly in your heart to have a child, find someone who will share in the joy of having a child and give it he time and attention a little life deserves. But the big question to ask is if you can't have both which do you want more? A tough choice that only you can make.

If my husband had really wanted to be a dad it would have been a deal breaker. We would have gone our separate ways but probably always be friends.