Well, it sounds like you are mid twenties? This is when women start "wanting" a child and part of this is due to nature when your body and hormones are more driven to reproduce.

When it comes to making a decision about having a child, you really have to consider the entire picture. It's important that if there is a partner in the picture that this partner has the ability to have the patience it requires when a child is around them. You certainly don't want this child to experience their parent being short tempered and suddenly yelling at them. You also have to consider your relationship and if your partner is short tempered and will suddenly get loud and angry and have meltdowns. A child will NOT understand this and can actually be traumatized by a parent that can have angry outbursts either towards them or the other parent. One of the things you can consider is how people you know like family reacts to this partners presence. If they say they are uncomfortable and even feel like they are walking on eggshells around this individual then this is NOT a good candidate to partner up with and bring a child into experiencing.

People can say they want children, after all, it's something that comes next however that doesn't mean these individuals are a good fit for having a child and raising that child to have a healthy "safe' outlook on life. If a child is an inconvenience for a parent, that child will most definitely "feel" it and can be challenged with that "feeling" their entire life. Truth is a lot of anxiety disorders develop in a person's early childhood where their environment simply doesn't feel "safe" for them. A lot of the "depression is hereditary" is not necessarily so, instead of it being a genetic issue, often it actually comes more from being exposed to it and how the mood swings and outbursts become instilled in the child.

A partner may really "not" be ready to even think about having a child too, especially if that partner is busy trying to figure out their career path and is under the stresses that can bring, for example being involved with getting an education and then learning how to actually practice whatever that person ends up choosing as a career.

Choosing to be a parent is a HUGE commitment and isn't something that a person should be choosing to do without really understanding what that commitment is really about. It's not about "just" wanting a child, it's about being able to actually give that child the kind of environment it deserves to have so it can grow up into a healthy adult, and that is YEARS where the parent learns all about "stages of child development" and what that child will need in terms of healthy nurturing from that parent/parents.

Actually, you can visit the "Childhood Emotional neglect" forum and there you can read all about what happens when a child doesn't grow up in a healthy environment and has to learn how to thrive despite being emotionally neglected. Dad never loved me, I was always an inconvenience, he was always mean and controlling blah, blah, blah or my mother never loved me, she just wanted someone to take care of "her". You say you want a "family", but you need to LEARN and EDUCATE yourself about "what really is a HEALTHY family?". Being responsible for another human being is a "major" commitment and this commitment lasts for many YEARS. You REALLY have to look at your partner and his/her qualifications beyond that partner simply saying they are ok with having a child. Often a partner's temper tantrums were instilled in him/her from their upbringing and dysfunctional parenting that he/she had no choice but to learn to exist with.

You say you would like to have a family of your own? Well, you really have to pay attention to if you have a partner that is capable of that because honestly, there are people that should NEVER be handed the responsibility of being a parent.

Here is an article you should read and think about:

https://health.usnews.com/health-car...e-contributing