Hello bsmtih: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. May I suggest you introduce yourself to the general membership over on our New Members Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

Since you mentioned your wife not really understanding what you're experiencing, one other forum here on PC that may be of interest might be the Relationships and Communication forum. Here's a link to that forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

Also, here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subjects of health anxiety & generalized anxiety disorder:

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/anxiety/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/ocd-and-health-anxiety/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/a...rder-symptoms/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/taking-...ur-life/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-smal...iety-symptoms/

My best wishes to you...