Jay--

You are who you are, and only you know that. That being said, it is easy to take on what other people say or think of you. Sometimes I start to wonder if I am really who everybody thinks I am because I internalize everything they say and the way they treat me.

Before we met my now husband was often mistaken as being gay (mostly being hit on by other men...his friends and family didn't mention it much.) He didn't let it bother him and continued to socialize with his gay friends.

For a while my mom was convinced that I was a lesbian and constantly made comments to show me how open and accepting she was. I didn't understand what she was getting at until she said to me one day, "Honey, it's okay that you're a lesbian! We still love you and accept you." I looked at her and said "Thank you for being accepting and loving....but I like guys!"

What kind of situation are you in now? I find it strange that acquaintences would be so interested in your sexuality. Most people I know (myself included) wouldn't directly ask about someone's sexuality...that seems kind of weird. Are you surrounded by people who are sex obsessed or just immature?

Good luck--be yourself and try not to worry so much what others think of you...easier said than done, I know. Have you talked to a therapist? That might be a good start, if you're interested in doing that.

-apislily