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and mckell... you said you didn't have any transference at all... you hid this little thing No offense.. just that sunrises mantra and your frequent statement of not being able to let og and trust your T... hmmm.... math is a funny thing.

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Hmmm in deed
I don't think I deliberately hid my self reliance belief. Maybe I assumed that others had the same belief, maybe to more or less of a degree than me. Maybe this assumption itself is an example of transference. Until your previous post and PM I really didn't get that transference could just mean the transferring of feelings (beliefs) in general. I was thinking it was feelings you have for a specific person that you project onto your T.

I'll have to think on this further.

It is funny how little tidbits spark trains of thought. Last session I voiced a minor complaint about my husband. I think in an attempt to make a point my T fired out a simple question, 'Well, who did you run to when you were hurt?' I didn't get her question or how it related to my complaint and must have looked really confused because she immediately followed with 'When you scrapped a knee, who took care of it?' I was like... "I don't know... I likely just blew on it or got the garden hose and squired it off. I don't get what you mean." What ever point she was trying to make was totally lost and we moved on. Maybe her point was related to this caring vs. taken care of issue. I'll have to reflect on this exchange to figure out what it was all about.