Hello,
I've been dating my highschool sweetheart for four years now, and our relationship has been going great! However, since the start of the relationship we've been having some trouble when it comes to sex due to the fact that she's been traumatized by ex-boyfriends. I have no problems with abstaining from certain actions but it really seems to bother her since she constantly feels like "damaged goods".

She's been to the gyno to make sure that there's nothing physically wrong, and there wasn't- but she actually fainted during the examination.

How should I go about this? She really wants to do more but is afraid that this is incurable. Personally I've told her that I don't mind and that it doesn't affect the relationship negatively, but it's really bothering her on a self-esteem level.

Whatever the case, I just want what's best for her. Should I find her a therapist? If so what kind of therapist?

And if any of you are on the same boat as her, I would like to know what has helped you get through/cope with this?

Thank you so much.