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Old Apr 11, 2018, 02:12 PM
Olive303 Olive303 is offline
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Sometimes people don’t want kids or don’t want be married etc etc...until they do.

A friend of mine spent almost ten years with a man who didn’t want commitment or kids. When they finally broke up, he started dating shortly after, married and had two kids one after another. They are in the same professional scene so she knows it’s a normal good marriage. She was very heart broken that he never wanted it with her. So they were either not right match or he simply wasn’t ready. Or changed his mind. Or met better match. Who knows.

In fact I know several women who stayed with men who didn’t want kids or commitment. Yet these men eventually married and had kids, with a new woman.

So people do change their minds, get older, meet different partners etc Heck I didn’t want to marry my long term boyfriend. And thought I never wanted to get married again. Yet I got engaged to my now husband after 7 months of dating, and got married shortly after and am happily married.

In op situation he is in medical school. Most medical students don’t even date. Let alone commit or think of kids. It could be just wrong timing for this guy
I think timing often plays a role but in this situation I truly believe that he will never want children. Me however I don’t know if I will change MY mind down the line. It’s unfortunate that women have a biological clock working against us. I would hate to be pressured into having children before I’m ready just because my clock has run out.