Well... I hate using the word enable, but I’m going to. Your well meaning ”helping ” of her is only making easy for her to avoid taking responsibility for her life. You are in no way obligated provide a home for or support an adult child! It’s not your responsibility to find financial assistance for her. She needs to step up and do that herself.

You need to tell her flat out that you are not going to pay for her medical bills. When the kids wake up in the morning and she’s still in bed...put the kids in her room and shut the door. That will wake her up! It’s her job to take her children to school NOT yours. If she doesn’t take her pills and ends up staying up all night that’s HER problem not yours. Is she’s tired in the morning? so what? She has children to take care of.

Doing her laundry? Oh please. Just say no. If she leaves her dirty stuff laying in the bathroom just toss it back in her room. Same if shes leaving dirty laundry on the washing machine. Dump it on the floor or back in her room. I would stay strong with the children’s laundry and not do that either. Kids don’t care if their clothes are dirty. If the school says something refer them to that actual mother of the children. Let her get called on the carpet.

This may sound harsh. But If you continue to pick up the slack you are allowing and even helping her stay non Functional. If you do everything for her she has no incentive to take care of her responsibilities. This happens even with “normal” adult children.