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Originally Posted by noneedtoknow
I know you were just being real when you cried. You took the time to explain that you had been moved/touched. You had learned that you were sarcastic and underneath all that sarcasm was a lot of feelings, Sometimes it is hard for you to hold it back. You explained the whole therapeutic/not therapeutic in your profession, Sharing yourself/etc. I get that. You were straight forward and responsible around it. You said therapy is suppose to be about me. And that line of disclosure-therapeutic/not therapeutic. I felt concern for you. You looked sad even though you said you had been moved.I know you did all of the right things i.e. explaining beng honest, checking in with me. And I thank you for that. But on an emeotional level you scared me I think. And I'm not sure what to think. Do I take care of you now? Intellectually I know I don't. Do I hold myself back because you are vulnerable? (well, really, you just showed feeling). I'm not sure what to do. It did scare me though. Wasn't expecting it. don't know what to do with it. Been freaked out about it all day. Yet all you did was be real and show emotion. Its weird though. Worked in ER, saw ****. Work in mental health now. I know we are human people trying to be professional. Ive heard people have cried with patients before, I know Ive wanted to cry over/with patients but don't/havnt. Its a weird thing. I hope I can come to peace about this.I know I wil but I don't know if I can work with you. I get your human. but there is a line.
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If you are the sort of person for whom data and/or reading about others' experiences is helpful/comforting, you might be interested in reading
this article about therapists' crying in therapy. (The short version is that 72% of therapists have cried while in their role as therapist, but there's more in there.) The same author also wrote a
book on the same topic.
If that sorta thing isn't helpful then nvmd about the article and I hope things feel less weird eventually :/