You are not selfish. SI is a powerful coping mechanism that works because it works. If we could all just stop, I think most of us would. But it's not that simple. If you could get your husband to read a book, and you think it might help, I would highly reccomend Healing the Hurt within by Jan Sutton.. I had to order it off of Amazon.uk's site but it was worth it. It does an excellent job of explaining self injury. I'd also suggest getting a therapist who is used to working with people who si, if you can afford it. Stopping for me, meant learning to identify the feelings that were underneath the si and developing healthier coping alternatives. Therapy helped me to do that.

Good luck, and take care of yourself.

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