youOme - people think all you want is "bang bang"? what do you expect when the title of your post is "haven't been laid in months!". the original post had NOTHING to do with affection and everything to do with not getting sex.

if you don't think its salvagable then leave! if you think youve done everything and nothing is changing then freaking leave. many women have gotten out of worse circumstance than yours so it is possible.

im recommending the book "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck. its from the 70's, but the topics he discusses are still relevant today. and if you read it, think about how it effects you, not your husband. if you read it trying to find how the subjects fit someone else, you will get nothing from the book.

and for future reference, if you don't want people forming their own ideas about your posts and having to explain yourself, then explain everything in the original post. if you dont, youll go to work and come home a few hours later to find 4 pages of replies that are totally against you.