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I really didn't get that transference could just mean the transferring of feelings (beliefs) in general. I was thinking it was feelings you have for a specific person that you project onto your T.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">mckell, that's the kind of transference I have, the general patterns/feelings from the past, rather than of a specific person. Of course, many specific people from my past went into constructing those feelings/patterns in me, but what I transfer onto my T is a general pattern of relating/interacting/feeling. And this is not specific to my T, I transfer this onto anyone I form a relationship with.

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I don't think I deliberately hid my self reliance belief.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I understood it to mean you had hid from yourself that you had transference, not the self reliance belief.

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'When you scrapped a knee, who took care of it?' I was like... "I don't know... I likely just blew on it or got the garden hose and squired it off. I don't get what you mean." What ever point she was trying to make was totally lost and we moved on.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">That's an interesting exchange, mckell. I wonder why you let that go without understanding it? Maybe the time is not right yet to make connections to your past in therapy? Or maybe it just seemed like hey this totally does not fit, why are we spending our valuable time on it? It sounds like it would be interesting to learn what your T really did mean. It's funny how sometimes things in therapy do not seem important and then in the interim, they become so. I guess that's processing.