Getting your hair cut just might be one way that can help you cope? I find that when I get my hair cut I always feel great afterwards. For that whole time, you have one person who is attending to you... they're trying to do something that will look nice on you, and don't have any bad intentions or anything. And then afterwards, I always feel so "fresh" because everything is so neat and smells GREAT!

I'm not saying to make this a regular thing (as in once a week or anything), but maybe just by doing little things for yourself like this, you'll come to realise that you DO deserve good things. So maybe "coping" can just be doing little things that make you feel good about yourself? Get some bath suds and take a warm bath. Read a new book (or old favourite) and let yourself enjoy it. Buy some new nail polish and paint your nails?

Not sure if these constitute as "real" coping... but they are steps further to loving yourself a little more, and loving yourself is definitely (IMO) a necessity to coping.


Jacq