I'm mostly all talk too; would be anxious telling my T I'm angry at her (or that I thought she'd done something "wrong").

But krazibean, you are the only expert on you. If what your T says or does is in any way not good for you, you have to actively tell her, with the natural authority you have from just being you, that you don't like or accept what she's said or done. Otherwise, you are tacitly agreeing with her treatment. It is only by making our views known and discussing things that others can get to know us and us, them."