Ok, I got my hair cut. Now it's shoulder-length (as opposed to down past my waist). It's still long enough, but not so heavy, and ought to be easier to manage. So far it feels pretty good. And the burnt hair smell is gone (except for what's lingering in my kitchen. I went to the dentist this morning too, so still trying to be able to swallow, etc.

I'm not good at the whole being attended to thing. I'm not used to it, and being noticed is uncomfortable. I'm a completely different person IRL than I probably seem to be here. IRL I am very quiet, shy, and often invisible, almost.

Yes, I think that any of the pamering things would count as real coping. They aren't easy for me. Do any of you find that too? Is it hard to be nice to yourself or have someone be nice to you?