the only time a child comes out when something bad is going on is if that child is specifically triggered out. for instance, there were some posts about a week ago with some "bickering". well shelley came out. she doesn't like arguing or discord of any kind. another reason i think she came out is the fact that she does have a role. she hid the children when we were younger, so she was checking out possible need there.

as far as other children coming out here, it's rare. they have to be triggered out and for a very specific reason. now, they come out and play, etc and i don't remember a thing. one night i stayed in a hotel by myself recently and don't remember much of the night because i think the children were having a free for all! all my makeup was out, clothes, etc.

other than that i just don't know alot. there are mostly adults that deal with things here when necessary i think, i don't remember most of it. i'm getting to where i can sense if a child'd scared now. at the hospital the other day when we went to see little brother, a child knew that he was locked in and was afraid the same would happen to us.

i think children aren't made to come out to deal with things too much for them. i think children are triggered out due to what they're role was for the child. they need to check the safety of it or whoosh, they're just pulled into the front because of the trigger that applies to them. not necessarily that the "system' has gotton together and decided they're going to make a child go thru something unpleasant. that's the way it is here anyhow.

i know also, if a child's out enjoying and something triggery happens, well, the child might get upset cause they're already out or close to "the front"

i know i'm not explaining it well. it's hard to put into words, even for t.

i hope that answers it for you as far as one multiple goes. in fewer words, children here aren't made to come out and deal with something. if it's something they handled for the child and a trigger comes along about whatever it was they did, they're triggered and react more than anything.

be safe,

kd