He asked me to marry him and I couldn’t say yes because we weren’t on the same page about kids. Honestly neither of us realized it was such a big deal to me. I have friends who planned out their kids names and what their lives would look like and daydreamed about being parents. I daydreamed about traveling the world, living a life of adventure, having a solid careers, living in interesting places, making a wonderful space to all my own. I never thought about kids until recently. I know it’s not THE most important thing in the world to me but it is something I want.

He thinks the logical progression to our relationship is marriage. He laid all his cards out on the table (where he would live, that he def doesn’t want kids) and ulimatley thinks if I can’t accept that, If I don’t see a future, then we are wasting each other’s time. That’s why he has urgency right now and why I turned to this thread right now. I understand things from his perspective as I am taking him on a back and forth ride of indesicion but the truth is I just DONT KNOw.