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Old Apr 15, 2018, 07:03 AM
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You do not need to make such decisions at 23.

It’s common for young people to think that they will never meet another love.

Most certainly it’s not the case. If it was, then widows and widowers would have no hope for them.

There might be men out there more suited for you (as yours has troubling character traits in addition to not wanting kids). But these decisions don’t need to be made now. You didn’t live enough to know what you should do. If down the road he isn’t the right man then you two would not stay together. Now if you were 33 I’d say make decision now. But at 23? No need.

I have a feeling that urgency of this decision is him threatening to break up. So you perhaps feel you must commit to him now or he’ll break up with you. That’s not a good reason to make commitments.

Trust me when it’s right you just know it and you would not be asking here. When in doubt do not make big decisions. If you are questioning if you should bemarry someone or not (no matter if it’s because of kids or other issues), then the answer is no (or at least not right now). You should only commit if you have no doubts and no questions.

Break up isn’t fun but could be done quickly but legal divorce is more difficult.
Thanks for this!
*Laurie*