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Originally Posted by Shazerac
Good grief. Eat when you get hungry! Maybe confiscate the game box until he gets a job. Your house your rules.
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I am having a hard time with enforcing my house my rules. I get your point. A lot of my disappointment is wrapped up with how could I have ended up in this position to begin with. But a lot is just an accident of fate, like my son losing his father at age 8, and our struggles throughout his life, including my recent lung cancer treatment. I will try to coordinate meal times with him at coffee in the morning. At least he willing gets up now instead of sleeping till 2 pm.
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Originally Posted by piano97
How old is your son? {24}
It sounds like he needs the boot. {Indeed}
If he's 21 or older, he'll figure it out....and you should not feel bad about it.
Kids are resilient, far more than parents and kids think. {it's a complicated situation...}
It sounds unintentional, but you are allowing him to dictate your feelings and emotions. {That is true.}
I'm way over-simplifying it, I'm sorry. {It's ok. I'm feeling better this morning.He did the leetcode competition yesterday and got a satisfactory result. There are other small improvements. My mood is better this morning.}
On the cannabis, I say toke up, and often, if it helps keep you sane during this.
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OK, I just did. Sometimes it helps me think through things.
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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
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WC, life sometimes feels like a constant, relentless struggle. I've developed a shoulder and neck pain that also goes toward the front with pain at the collar bone. After a week of not getting better I went to my gp clinic and got a thorough exam which includes xray studies, that i also got done yesterday. If there is anything bad causing this pain it would hopefully turn up on an xray. It's only because of my lung cancer history that a doctor would think of a chest xray for shoulder pain... I don't like dealing with the medical system at all but I do take care of myself. I worry that without some structure in his life, my son would not take care of getting to necessary medical appointments. Once he has a job, I am . not going to need to kick him out, he will go on his own gladly.
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Originally Posted by TheSadGirl
I honestly do not know how you are coping. I am in awe of your patience and strength because I am sure I would have snapped by now. I'm a big fan of tackling one problem at a time. Deal with your son and then return to the pot situation. Hugs.
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Your note cheered me up, TheSadGirl. It is nice to read somethign positive about oneself when one is feeling down. One problem at a time is also good advise. I only worry about paranoia developing but am on 2mg of Rexulti so hopefulloy that will prevent symptoms. My goal is to help my son happily get a job as soon as possible and to feel less pain each day using a foam roller, a muscle relaxant, and a heating pad. So far so good.