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Old Apr 15, 2018, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Shazerac View Post
Good grief. Eat when you get hungry! Maybe confiscate the game box until he gets a job. Your house your rules.
I am having a hard time with enforcing my house my rules. I get your point. A lot of my disappointment is wrapped up with how could I have ended up in this position to begin with. But a lot is just an accident of fate, like my son losing his father at age 8, and our struggles throughout his life, including my recent lung cancer treatment. I will try to coordinate meal times with him at coffee in the morning. At least he willing gets up now instead of sleeping till 2 pm.

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Originally Posted by piano97 View Post
How old is your son? {24}

It sounds like he needs the boot. {Indeed}

If he's 21 or older, he'll figure it out....and you should not feel bad about it.

Kids are resilient, far more than parents and kids think. {it's a complicated situation...}

It sounds unintentional, but you are allowing him to dictate your feelings and emotions. {That is true.}

I'm way over-simplifying it, I'm sorry. {It's ok. I'm feeling better this morning.He did the leetcode competition yesterday and got a satisfactory result. There are other small improvements. My mood is better this morning.}

On the cannabis, I say toke up, and often, if it helps keep you sane during this.
OK, I just did. Sometimes it helps me think through things.

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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote View Post
I am sorry it's still so difficult.


WC
WC, life sometimes feels like a constant, relentless struggle. I've developed a shoulder and neck pain that also goes toward the front with pain at the collar bone. After a week of not getting better I went to my gp clinic and got a thorough exam which includes xray studies, that i also got done yesterday. If there is anything bad causing this pain it would hopefully turn up on an xray. It's only because of my lung cancer history that a doctor would think of a chest xray for shoulder pain... I don't like dealing with the medical system at all but I do take care of myself. I worry that without some structure in his life, my son would not take care of getting to necessary medical appointments. Once he has a job, I am . not going to need to kick him out, he will go on his own gladly.

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Originally Posted by TheSadGirl View Post
I honestly do not know how you are coping. I am in awe of your patience and strength because I am sure I would have snapped by now. I'm a big fan of tackling one problem at a time. Deal with your son and then return to the pot situation. Hugs.
Your note cheered me up, TheSadGirl. It is nice to read somethign positive about oneself when one is feeling down. One problem at a time is also good advise. I only worry about paranoia developing but am on 2mg of Rexulti so hopefulloy that will prevent symptoms. My goal is to help my son happily get a job as soon as possible and to feel less pain each day using a foam roller, a muscle relaxant, and a heating pad. So far so good.
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