I live in a pretty small condo development. 20 units. We all kind of know each other. Something sad is that it is primarily populated with single women. Of all different ages.

But one of my neighbors.. a single woman, died this past week. She was 71. It was unexpected but she had heart issues.

I actually feel pretty bad about it. I never talked to her or knew her.

I found out via her obituary she used to work in the place that my mother died and that makes me even more sympathetic.

Her obituary went up today and (1) they don't want flowers just donations to the humane society and (2) no one has said anything on the condolence page, and I want to but.. what do I say.. I didn't know her but I feel bad?

I remember being so touched when neighbors came for my mom's funeral but the only difference is that she did talk to them.

Some other neighbors wanted the condo to send a donation but we said no, but I still would like to do something privately. I don't know if that is happening.