and if she is looking to substitute sex for love, then the problem still is not with her husband.

im pretty sure ive even heard people on here say that when someone really makes you angry, you need to look at what your problem is, not theirs. its all in perception. if you get the wrong impression of someone, you will take everything they say wrong. whereas, if you lust for someone or have a good impression of someone, you might make excuses for them and see everything they do as good. i agree that she needs help, just not that everything is the husbands fault. from the way youOme talks in posts, it seems like she really needs to see a counselor. Im nowhere near a psychiatrist but I sense a little bit of a character disorder here. just my opinion.