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Originally Posted by carcrashonrepeat
If it's making you and your boyfriend so stressed out that it physically manifests in your body then taking a break is probably best. That's not procrastination. That is self-care.
Again, you guys are trying to plan for a future you are unsure of. And the planning is stressful for the both of you when it shouldn't be. If he wants an answer from you, why isn't he content with you not knowing what you want? This doesn't have to be yes or no. If you don't know when or if you wanna have kids, then that is the answer. He can do what he wants with that. But it seems like he is trying to find a reason for the relationship to end. And I think you deserve to be with someone who respects where you are right now.
Putting a deadline on this or making predictions that are unfair to make right now is not cool.
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I wouldn’t mind waiting but at the same time we’ve been going back and forth on this for a year and haven’t come to any conclusion so It really does feel like limbo right now. Yes I’m not ready to make this decision but I’m not sure what could possibly happen to make me feel really sure. I don’t think that is something that happens overnight.
Yes I know I do want kids but I am not sure if I am okay with not having them. I’m weighing my reasons for wanting kids and if it is realistic to have them or if it will make me happy if I didn’t have them. But I think if I was with someone who wants kids then yes I would have them (several years down the line that is).
I agree it’s frusterating To have a deadline on something I’m not ready for but he’s 100% sure he doesn’t want them and if I have that internal instinct to have them I’m pretty sure that won’t ever fully go away?