I was conscientious in my planning to have a baby. I was super worried about passing along a birth defect that my dad and then myself had. Trying to offer a healthy womb was so important to me. Granted I still could but chances are slim. I've since put into my body immuno suppressent and modulating types of medications and I would cringe at the idea of causing harm.

It's really not your mother's place to dictate to you what you can and cannot do. She doesn't have such legal rights, does she?

Would telling this man you are going to meet that having a baby is you end goal possibly send him running for the hills?

How would your current child feel?