Why do yoh want to be with a guy who puts yiu through this kind of turmoil? It's about having kids today what will yiu differ on in the futurd that he does thevsame thing to you about.

What would happen if you did choose no kids, got married then accidentally got pregnant like I did...Birth control is not a guarantee to NOT getting pregnant. What kind of oressure would he out on you then?

It is much easier getting out of a relationship now than it is after marriage & a kid. At least now you are young with no kids & have a chance to find someone with your same values & desire for family & can be really on the same page if life with you. Just because yoh have a hard time meeting & connecting with people doesn't mean yku have to FORCE yiurself to just settle or be forced to choose what yiu don't really want in life when you aren't ready ti make that decision.

For either of yih to assume tbat the other will change their minds or feelings is just WRONG. As I said, I lsid out what I wanted before the weddkng in hopes he wiukd run the other way. When I finally left 33 years later & asked him why he had agreed with me, he said he was sure I would change my mind about not wanting kids after I got married to him. Actually after I did get married & knew him better....I wanted kids with him even less than I had before I got married. You may decide in yiyr mind thst yiu are ok without having kids but yiyr heart may never change & it could be a long term wedge in yiyr ever realky being hapoy in a marriage to this guy....especially since ut us ibvious he tryes to pressure yih into decisions you are NOT ready to make.

Maybe he is the one wanting out of the relationship like I was & is hoping yiu will make the choice that will end it so he doesn't have to take the responsibiluty for ending it himself? I was seriousky hoping that my definiteky not wabting kids would make my fiancee call iff the weddjng because I really didn't understsnd the depth of the issues I actually had with him & getting the wedding stopped for that wiuld hsve been the easiest for me since it was a k iwn & understood difference. Relationships are complicated at best.