Making a future is the real key....that diesn't have to be based on the past or what even felt nirmal then. Making ones NEW normal with new learned skills that make it possible.

My life at 65 is absolutely NOTHING like this life I started over at the age of 54. I never liked my childhood & landed in a bad marriage for way too long. Situations came together that created a major depression in me that almost killed me.

I was finally able to change my situation with a complete change if environment & that made a durptising change for the good in my mental health & honestly have never been healthier in my whole life.

Disclaimer....this kind of solution ONLY works when the mental health issues are caused situationally & one doesn't take the problem situations with them when they leave

Non situational conditions can be helped by therapy to learn how to recognize & handle the illness when it does create problems in life & learn better functional ways or handling it.

Some illnesses can only be controlled & then focus on what yiu want the future to look like within those limitations.