I know a lot of you on here seem to think there’s some alterior motive at play and my boyfriend wants to break up with me but is too afraid to do it but I know for sure that this is not the case.

The day before I posted this forum he asked me to marry him. He said he was 100% sure he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and we had already been making future plans. I didn’t expect the proposal and I could not say yes and that threw him off and brought up some very serious conversations about kids, which was the reason why I’m not sure about us. Once he realized how much I truly want kids and how much he truly does not he started talking about a break up. He knows he doesn’t want kids and has never wanted kids. He knows I do want kids and beleives that desire will never go away. He beleives it is selfish to ask me to give that up just for him and will lead to resentment in the future. He does have a point since I literally told him “I don’t think the feeling of wanting kids will ever go away”.

I am not sure why everyone on here seems to think that him not wanting kids and not being willing to bring an unwanted child into this world just to keep me is some testament to how much he does or does not love me. Not sure why everyone seems to expect him to change that but is appalled if I were to ever not have kids for him. I myself know that I don’t love him any less just because we want different things and may have to part ways.

I’m not nieve, i know that if you and your partner want different lives it’s hard to have a life together. I’m not physically ill because my relationship is horrible, as some of you seem to think. I’m Sick because I’m in between a rock and a hard place and about to lose the person I love. I’m ill because I don’t want to lose him. He’s having panick attacks for the same reason. Heartbreak is painful.