Moxie you sound bitter and frustrated. I can totally understand that. If you think you have problems than you do. Sometimes it takes years to get a diagnosis. And even then that diagnosis may be “wrong” or not really helpful.

My only advice is to keep trying to get help. Maybe stop focusing so much on the label and focus more in the symptoms. It’s true a therapist can’t officially diagnose you or prescribe Meds if needed. But if you find the right one they can still help you a lot.