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Old Apr 16, 2018, 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by RubyRae View Post
I guess I don't understand anyone asking(or telling) another member to add them to their ignore list.

If I add someone to mine,it's about me,it's about how I react to their posts whether I am triggered by them.Adding them to my list prevents me from seeing any more of their posts.Problem solved.

I feel it would be inappropriate for me to ask or tell someone to add me to theirs.To me that would taking things too far.It's my responsibility to practice self control and not read or post in any of their threads.I don't need them to put me on ignore to stop myself.

Sometimes I add ppl to my list when I have got upset or triggered just to give myself time to get over it and then I remove them when I am in a better place.

There's been times I have tried to reply to threads just to find out I have been placed on someones list.I don't get upset or take it personally because I know they have done it for themselves not to spite or upset me,I know it's really about them,not me.

I think the ignore feature is good practice for real life.While we can't put someone on ignore in real life with a quick click,we do have the option of walking away from differing thoughts,opinions,etc.and not let it upset us.And the ignore feature is helping me practice that.It may not always work or help but it is good practice.

Just my 2 cents.
I do agree with everything you said, but some do ask others to put them on your ignore list. i never ask what the reasoning/ logic is behind it, I just do it and expect them to take care of their self when they discover that by their asking to be on my ignore they have effectively prevented/ limited their self access. its not a punishment to be imposed on each other. it affects both sides. I have no problem when someone asks that I do this. I just make sure that they understand what they are asking me to do will also affect their self.
Thanks for this!
RubyRae