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Originally Posted by Bill3
I agree that you should not marry someone in the expectation that they will change.
One thing perhaps to consider, though, is that if you break up then he will be faced with the actual choice: have no children and no you, or find it in his heart to have children and also have you. You could perhaps find out whether or not he will change, without having to marry him to find out.
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If we do break up I know I will always hope that we will find our way back to each other eventually. Even if it’s a few months or several years I would probably always hold that torch. Which is why this situation is so messed up. sure there are other “fish in the sea” who have the same idea of a future as me but at the end of the day he is the one I love so maybe I won’t fully love the next man knowing I have the “one that got away” out there somewhere.
I hope that if he’s so set on this maybe not having me around will make him realize otherwise. Like maybe some space would give us more clarity into the situation. But in a breakup hope is a dangerous thing. If we broke up it wouldn’t be because either of us didn’t love each other. The love is there. There is just a fundamental incompatibility between us that may never go away. I know love fades over time if we break up but he will always have part of my heart.
I know if we did break up I would move back to my home state. It’s a lot harder to get back together considering that.