I’m a little concerned about your attitude of “I’ll just let it happen.” And hiding it from your mom, and ignoring medical advice. That doesn’t sound like a healthy way to bring a child into the world. “I want a baby” is not necessarily the best grounds for this decision. It’s not like I want a pizza or I want a puppy.

Of course you’re entirely within your rights to have a child if you chose to do so. I also don’t know anything about your living or financial situation. Are you currently independent and capable of caring for another child as well as yourself?

Have you given any thoughts as to what might happen if you do have complications from the pregnancy? Gestational diabetes can be fatal for you as well as the baby. My aunt wants another baby and ended up almost dying in childbirth. Her health never really recovered and she died early as a result. Who would care for this child and your daughter if something happens to you.

I’m just posing questions so please don’t be offended. I think it’s a good idea to do some serious soul searching about why you want to have another baby and what are you going to do if things go wrong.