I agree with rose. Nothing wrong with not wanting children. But to keep telling woman he might want kids or actually wants kids and when she moves out of state to live with him and then ambushes her is a bit strange.

Just a year ago he said he wanted kids and the issue at the time was his anger and bad temper. Now in a year he doesn’t have anger issues (?) but 100% doesn’t want kids. I don’t know if he is sneaky but it would be much more honorable to address it a year ago before olive moved.

I am also a bit unclear why you, olive, were surprised with proposal? So after 4 years together and cohabitation you never expected him to propose? Where did you think this relationship was going when you left your job and state and moved in with him? So the whole thing is confusing. Seems like you or both of you did not think it through