There is nothing wrong with living together before marriage but not too many young women would uproot themselves, quit their job and move out of state to follow a boyfriend. People do follow spouses (even that often wouldn’t work out as not everyone can just quit their jobs) but not boyfriends. Especially moving out of state without previously finding a job (what was the urgency?)! I know a lot of people and it’s not common. I’d not recommend it.

I am not really sure what exact advice would you like. We can’t really tell you to leave or stay as it’s your life. You clearly have hard time making decisions. I don’t recall if you are seeing a therapist but I think it would be very helpful.

Rose, rewards of travel makes me chuckle. Everyone in my circle is well travelled and we all have kids. Traveling isn’t just for childless people. Neither is career or Education or exciting places and adventures