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Old Apr 18, 2018, 08:29 AM
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Originally Posted by Rose76 View Post
That's true, divine. I thought that, further up, there was some discussion about how not having kids gave one more freedom to devote to traveling.

I remember when I was real young and thought that getting on an airplane was the coolest thing. Well, over the years, I've been in and out of more airports than I can readily count. I now see zero fun in getting on an airplane for a few hours. The reality is that, unless you come into a load of money, most mornings you're going to wake up in your own home and go to a job that isn't a ton of fun. Then you're going to come home tired to the same place. Talking to each other about how things went at work gets old. Sitting across from each other at the dinner table with no one else there, you start running out of things to talk about. We are designed to be members of families. That's how evolution has designed the human species. Living alone, or with just one person, is not natural. Your brain wasn't designed for that. Then, one day, one of you will pass on and the other will be alone. Nieces and nephews will have enough to do, looking after their own parents. Their interest in you will probably depend on how much wealth you have.

There truly are lots of articles saying that childless couples are quite content. Having money can help with that. Being very absorbed in great careers can help.

Olive, you don't seem to take a lot of joy in your job. This guy you are with will probably be the main bread-winner. Are you prepared to basically be a handmaid to this man?
Well eventually kids grow up. And fast. So people better have stuff to say each other and do together when kids are gone. Otherwise they probably chose wrong partners. Then this kind of marriage is doomed. And what about second marriages when kids are long grown? And no mutual kids? Hopefully people have a lot in common besides having kids

I think if people don’t naturally want kids, they shouldn’t. I think the issue is when they do want them but are willing to give that up to keep a partner. Then such union is doomed as well.